{"id":98641,"date":"2023-09-08T18:36:50","date_gmt":"2023-09-08T18:36:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebritycovernews.com\/?p=98641"},"modified":"2023-09-08T18:36:50","modified_gmt":"2023-09-08T18:36:50","slug":"i-am-sick-and-tired-of-our-garden-looking-like-a-rubbish-tip-my-husband-refuses-to-throw-anything-out-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebritycovernews.com\/lifestyle\/i-am-sick-and-tired-of-our-garden-looking-like-a-rubbish-tip-my-husband-refuses-to-throw-anything-out-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"I am sick and tired of our garden looking like a rubbish tip – my husband refuses to throw anything out | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"
DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband\u2019s hoarding problem is taking over our home.<\/p>\n
He\u2019s incapable of throwing anything away and our garden now looks like a rubbish tip. <\/p>\n
I can never sit out there if I want to relax, and I\u2019m worried we won\u2019t be able to sell the house.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m 58 and he\u2019s 60. We\u2019ve been married for 35 years.<\/p>\n
He has always collected bits of junk \u2013 scrap metal, old tyres, bric-a-brac \u2013 and even built a garage to store them in. <\/p>\n
But now that\u2019s bursting at the seams and the excess has spilled into our garden.<\/p>\n
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He never does anything with any of it, and he\u2019s always promising to sort it out, but he can\u2019t bring himself to do it.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s like he has an emotional attachment to this stuff. <\/p>\n
I don\u2019t understand why it\u2019s so important to him and he gets angry when I ask him to do something about it.<\/p>\n
Our neighbours sold their house recently, and when I asked the estate agent what ours might be worth, I was told we\u2019d get thousands more if we cleared up the mess. <\/p>\n
It\u2019s such an eyesore. I\u2019d love to be able to invite friends round for barbecues in the summer, but who wants to sit in a junkyard?<\/p>\n
I\u2019ve told my husband we could even make money by selling some of his rubbish at car boot sales. <\/p>\n
But he still won\u2019t let anything go. In fact, almost every time he goes out he comes back with more.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s making my life miserable.<\/p>\n
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DEIDRE SAYS:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span> Your husband\u2019s attachment to his stuff \u2013 to the detriment of your living environment and your relationship \u2013 does suggest he has a real problem.<\/p>\n Hoarding is a recognised disorder, which is thought to relate to OCD and affects slightly more men than women. Stress can make it worse.<\/p>\n You need to explain the effect it\u2019s having on you. <\/p>\n Perhaps you could offer to help sort out his stuff, and say you\u2019re happy if it\u2019s confined to the garage.<\/p>\n For more advice, contact Hoarding UK (hoardinguk.org, 020 3239 1600).<\/p>\n Cognitive behavioural therapy can help too, so please contact your GP.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\nMost read in Dear Deidre<\/h2>\n
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