{"id":101442,"date":"2023-11-29T14:13:07","date_gmt":"2023-11-29T14:13:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/celebritycovernews.com\/?p=101442"},"modified":"2023-11-29T14:13:07","modified_gmt":"2023-11-29T14:13:07","slug":"ive-been-hiding-a-terrible-secret-from-my-husband-for-26-years","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/celebritycovernews.com\/lifestyle\/ive-been-hiding-a-terrible-secret-from-my-husband-for-26-years\/","title":{"rendered":"I&apos;ve been hiding a terrible secret from my husband for 26 YEARS"},"content":{"rendered":"<h1>DEAR JANE: I&#8217;ve been hiding a terrible secret from my husband for 26 YEARS &#8211; the guilt is going to drive me crazy<\/h1>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>In her latest agony aunt column, best-selling author Jane Green gives advice to a woman who has been keeping information hidden from her husband for years\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>Do you have a question for Jane? Email dearjane@mailonline.com or ask it below<\/strong><\/li>\n<li><strong>READ MORE:\u00a0My mother has barred me from my own father&#8217;s FUNERAL\u00a0<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span>Dear Jane,<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I wed my husband 26 years ago this week \u2013 but for every one of those years, I have been hiding an appalling secret from him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Six months before we got married, I got what I suppose you might call cold feet.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>We\u2019d been together since I was 16, I\u2019d never really had a relationship with another man, and it suddenly hit me that I\u2019d never have that opportunity in the future once we were officially husband and wife. Nor, I should point out, would I want that opportunity.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I love my husband, I\u2019ve loved him for the entirety of our marriage. But back then I was young, I didn\u2019t really understand the way the world works, that when you find love, you\u2019re supposed to hold onto it, not run in the other direction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But run is exactly what I did \u2013 straight into the arms of another man.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I\u2019d been saving myself for marriage, which had always been my plan, and was something that my husband and I discussed a lot together. But something came over me in this other relationship, I got caught up in the excitement and the secrecy, and ultimately had sex for the first time with a man who was not my husband.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/11\/29\/13\/78372671-12804953-image-a-1_1701265477020.jpg\" height=\"568\" width=\"634\"><\/p>\n<p>Dear Jane, I have been keeping a devastating secret from my husband for nearly 30 years &#8211; the guilt is eating me up but I fear telling him will destroy our marriage\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><span>Eventually, I came to my senses and broke things off \u2013 about four months before my wedding. And I was lucky enough \u2013 or so I thought \u2013 that my husband never seemed to catch wind of what had been going on. On my wedding night, when we did have sex, I pretended to cry out in pain in order to keep up the charade.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Nearly 30 years have passed since then; my husband and I have welcomed two wonderful children, and we have lived an incredible life together. One that I hope we may continue for many years to come.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But the thing is, in recent years, the guilt over what I did has started eating me up inside. My husband often talks about our \u2018special\u2019 first night together, and how much it means to him to know that I was so in love with him, he was the only person I ever wanted to be with.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Every time he brings it up, I nod and smile, and usually try to shut him up with a kiss. But inside my insides are like a pit of tar. I feel horrible and dirty, and desperate to scrub myself clean.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/i.dailymail.co.uk\/1s\/2023\/11\/29\/13\/69851423-12804953-International_best_selling_author_Jane_Green_offers_sage_advice_-a-2_1701265508060.jpg\" height=\"485\" width=\"306\"><\/p>\n<p>International best-selling author Jane Green offers sage advice on DailyMail.com readers&#8217; most burning issues in her Dear Jane agony aunt column<\/p>\n<p><span>The guilt inside me just seems to grow with each passing day \u2013 and I feel as though I will burst if I don\u2019t confess. Then I realize what telling my husband might mean and I just start sobbing.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>How can I have been so foolish as to think that I could risk my marriage and the life I\u2019ve built for the sake of unburdening myself from this feeling of guilt?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Round and round in circles I go: tell him and risk him ending our marriage? Or live with the never ending feelings of guilt?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>What would you do?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>From,<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Hidden Guilt<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Dear Hidden Guilt,<\/p>\n<p>Happy 26th anniversary \u2013 what a remarkable achievement in today\u2019s day and age.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>You and your husband clearly have a wonderful marriage, despite you carrying what you describe as an appalling secret.<\/p>\n<p>Hidden Guilt, your secret isn\u2019t that appalling. In fact, whilst not something to be recommended for all, given that you met your husband at 16, I can see how it would have made perfect sense to you as a very young, innocent woman, to experience sex with someone else.<\/p>\n<p>I am sorry that the weight of this secret is still with you; it is high time that you now put the secret to bed.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Whilst I do not condone secrets in marriages, you were very young, your decision didn\u2019t lead to any children, and it all happened a very long time ago. The correct path forward in any difficult situation is always the one that causes the least pain to all concerned.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Right now you are experiencing pain, but spilling the secret is only going to create more pain and havoc, and I cannot see what good it will do other than relieve you of your burden.<\/p>\n<p>Let that burden go, and focus on your marriage to what sounds like a wonderful man.<\/p>\n<p>Source: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.dailymail.co.uk\/femail\/article-12804953\/DEAR-JANE-hiding-terrible-secret-husband-guilt-crazy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Read Full Article<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>DEAR JANE: I&#8217;ve been hiding a terrible secret from my husband for 26 YEARS &#8211; the guilt is going to<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":101441,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.8 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>I&amp;apos;ve been hiding a terrible secret from my husband for 26 YEARS - Celebrity Cover News<\/title>\n<meta name=\"robots\" content=\"index, follow, max-snippet:-1, max-image-preview:large, max-video-preview:-1\" \/>\n<link rel=\"canonical\" href=\"https:\/\/celebritycovernews.com\/lifestyle\/ive-been-hiding-a-terrible-secret-from-my-husband-for-26-years\/\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:locale\" content=\"en_US\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:type\" content=\"article\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:title\" content=\"I&amp;apos;ve been hiding a terrible secret from my husband for 26 YEARS - Celebrity Cover News\" \/>\n<meta property=\"og:description\" content=\"DEAR JANE: I&#8217;ve been hiding a terrible secret from my husband for 26 YEARS &#8211; 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