Woman, 32, who has become a proud parent to naturally conceived TRIPLETS says she began to believe she may ‘never be a mum’ after two heartbreaking miscarriages
- Natasha O’Grady, 32, and Ryan, 34, suffered two devastating miscarriages
- Couple, from Isleworth, London, in ‘shock’ when scan revealed three heartbeats
- Found out expecting triplets at the end of a grieving therapy programme
A woman who suffered two heartbreaking miscarriages has become a proud mother of naturally conceived miracle triplets.
Natasha O’Grady, 32, and her husband Ryan, 34, were in ‘total shock’ when a scan at 14 weeks revealed three healthy heartbeats.
The content creator from Isleworth, London, found out at the end of a grieving therapy programme following the loss of two babies at 11 weeks.
Natasha and Ryan, who works in recruitment, are now proud parents to daughters Onyx, Maddox and Quinn, who are now four-months-old.
‘The whole world wants to portray pregnancy as this seemingly, perfectly smooth ride,’ she said.
Natasha O’Grady, 32, and her husband Ryan, 34, from Isleworth in London, who suffered two heartbreaking miscarriages have become proud parents of naturally conceived miracle triplets. Pictured, with the scans of their triplets
The couple were in ‘total shock’ when a scan at 14 weeks revealed three healthy heartbeats. Pictured, L-R Triplets, Onyx, Quinn and Maddox
‘It’s not until you’ve been through it that you realise this simply isn’t the case for a large proportion of society. Nothing could prepare us for our journey to parenthood.
‘I never thought a miscarriage would happen to me and that’s simply because it’s a topic that isn’t openly talked about enough which drastically needs to change.
‘It was extremely traumatic both mentally and physically, and I began to believe I may never become a mum.
‘When I fell pregnant for the third time, there was no celebration hugs or jumping up and down in the bathroom.
The content creator from Isleworth, London, found out at the end of a grieving therapy programme following the loss of two babies at 11 weeks. Pictured, during her pregnancy
Natasha and Ryan, who works in recruitment, are now proud parents to daughters Onyx, Maddox and Quinn, who are now four months old. Pictured: L-R Onyx, Quinn and Maddox
‘The sheer wave of panic just engulfed us again and that is the sad reality of pregnancy after loss, you truly believe it’s going to be taken away from you at any moment.
‘I didn’t feel I could get excited or look to the future until our scan revealed there were three healthy babies!’
Natasha’s journey to motherhood began in January 2019.
The couple were elated but as the weeks passed, she began to bleed and an early scan confirmed there wasn’t a heartbeat.
Natasha said suffering two miscarriages was ‘extremely traumatic both mentally and physically’ and added she began to believe she ‘may never become a mum.’ Pictured, holding Maddox (L) and Onyx (R)
The couple have said the moment was ‘surreal’ when a sonographer at the 14-week scan revealed three healthy heartbeats. Pictured, husband Ryan and Natasha holding the triplets Maddox, Quinn and Onyx
The couple were ‘crushed’ and Natasha recalls going into a ‘black hole’.
She added: ‘I can honestly say that never in my wildest dreams did I expect to be in that position, it was as never something that had even crossed my mind and immediately I was now entering a supposedly “secret” club that I would never wish to be part of.
‘I didn’t really know how to deal with and process the situation or felt I had anywhere to turn so instead tried to carry on as if nothing had happened.
‘I found myself desperately seeking something to fuel my focus on.
A pregnant Natasha with three cribs for her expected triplets Onyx, Maddox and Quinn
The triplets were conceived naturally and born at 33 weeks. Pictured, L-R Triplets Onyx, Maddox and Quinn with mother Natasha
‘Ryan and I decided to bring our wedding forward to August 2019.
‘It was the worst decision we could have made.
‘I absolutely threw my heart and soul into trying to plan an entire wedding myself in less than three months, whilst also battling with the aftermath of our loss.
‘I was fixed on this idea of perfection, and how everything had to be absolutely spot-on as I felt I desperately needed to give something back to our family and friends after feeling I had taken away the joy of us having a baby.
‘I really did feel like I was to blame and the wedding was my deluded way to make it all better. In March 2020, I found out I was expecting again.
‘Weeks later I felt cramps again but as I hadn’t experienced any bleeding, I tried my hardest to keep a positive focus.
‘Sadly, I was wrong. I collapsed at home and I wasn’t breathing properly. My body went into total shock as my body rejected the pregnancy.
Natasha said that going from no children to a parent of three overnight has been a ‘total whirlwind.’ Pictured, Natasha and husband Ryan with triplets L-R Onyx, Maddox and Quinn
‘As I was taken out on a stretcher by the paramedics, my body was trembling and I passed out. I was taken into theatre as I began to profusely bleed and they needed to operate immediately.
Following this loss, Natasha found a charity called ‘Crossway’ based in Twickenham, London. They offered her around the clock support and a weekly therapy session to deal with depression.
Natasha was leading a healthier life and cut alcohol plus caffeine out of her life whilst focusing heavily on improving her mental health.
‘Nearly a year on, I found myself in the bathroom peering down onto that familiar stick again,’ she said. ‘The two blue lines would be the change and the step to giving us both our happiness back.
‘Yet, I instantly felt scared that history is going to repeat itself. The feeling of guilt for finding yourself feeling bursts of excitement, then having to calm yourself down because the reality is, this baby might just not stay too.
‘At 13 weeks, my heart broke into a million pieces when I found blood again. Seeing that sight was just like the trap door opened again below me, and the black hole was getting ready to pull me down again.’
But at the 14-week scan, the sonographer revealed three healthy heartbeats.
The couple describes the moment as ‘surreal’.
Natasha said that while some days are hard as the couple ‘try to adjust,’ seeing three smiling faces staring back at them makes it ‘all worth it.’ Pictured, Natasha with the triplets in their prams
She said: ‘We were in complete disbelief! We had mentally tried to prepare to hear those heartbreaking words again, so to hear we were actually already passed the first trimester and carrying three healthy babies was the craziest moment of our lives.
‘We have no history of triplets in our family so we feel completely blessed. It is like we were given back all of our babies.’
The triplets were conceived naturally and born at 33 weeks.
Natasha added: ‘Going from no children to a parent of three overnight has been a total whirlwind, but Ryan and I work so well, together as a team to give our girls the happiest lives we can.
‘We truly believe we’ve been blessed with this incredible gift as it’s so rare to have triplets and couldn’t be more grateful every day that our girls were born into the world healthy and safe after such an incredibly scary pregnancy.
‘Some days are hard as we try to adjust, but seeing three smiling faces staring back at you makes it all worth it.’
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