My sister-in-law hates me and has turned their family against me

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I first started seeing my husband ten years ago, his sister took an instant dislike to me and tried to cause problems.

She began a smear campaign, turning all their family against me. She accused me of being controlling and manipulative and said I was out to destroy the family.


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When I wasn’t invited to her wedding, my husband decided not to go, as he was so cross with her. As a result, we got the silent treatment for the next two years.

She didn’t come to our wedding, though we invited her and her husband. We have tried to reconnect with other family members and have been to a few events but it is still so difficult.

She has turned so many people against me. I am 36 and my husband is 37, while his sister is 32.

She shows no interest in us and never includes us in anything. It upsets me every day and, though my husband wants to keep some contact with them, I would be happier walking away.

DEIDRE SAYS: She sounds like an unhappy woman who is scared that you are taking her brother away.

But there is room in your husband’s life for both of you. I get that it is upsetting for you but your husband is showing maturity by keeping up contact with them.

Ignore her behaviour and avoid her if you can. Get on with your lives and try to be civil. In the end, she will realise she is not going to win.

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