What’s Your Trigger?

Causes for anger are deeply personal: What leads one person to blow up, another might brush off. So, what sends YOU flying off the handle? Take our quiz to find out.

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By Todd B. Kashdan

Todd B. Kashdan is a psychology professor who researched harnessing anger for his book “The Art of Insubordination: How to Dissent and Defy Effectively.”

While it would be great to be as calm as a Buddhist monk in everyday life, we all lose it on occasion.

But just like favorite flavors of ice cream, the things that set us off vary from one person to the next. For some, it’s irritating tasks; for others, it’s irritating people. And of course, there are those who are just plain angry.

If you want to tame your aggression or — better still — start putting it to good use, it can be helpful to get a better sense of what tends to trigger anger in you.

My paleontology classmates are slacking on our group project. I did my share, but unless I want to flunk Intro to Velociraptors, I’m going to have to do theirs as well.

I’m not bothered.

Mildly annoying.



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