JUMPING on the bus with her 15-month daughter Matilda giggling and cooing, teen mum Izzy Wendell sat politely sitting next to an old age pensioner.
She just wanted to relax after a hard day studying for her A-levels.
Instead within seconds the elderly woman asked if the cute toddler was ‘her sister’.
“It starts like that with a lot of pensioners and older people because what starts as an innocent question actually undermines my teen mum confidence," said Izzy, from York, North Yorkshire.
But Izzy, who lives with Matilda and long-term partner, Lee, 22, an apprentice, won’t be disheartened.
“I tell everyone, ‘She is my daughter and I am a proud teen mum.’”
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Izzy who shares her teen mum journey daily to 33k followers on Tik Tok, amassing a staggering 2m likes and 10m views, happily admits she loves making people awkward.
“I love making people, especially interfering busy bodies, feel guilty,” she said.
“If I don't take a stand, they will keep thinking it’s their right to criticise anyone, without even knowing the circumstances.
“I’m doing this for all the other teen mums who don't have the confidence to stand up to critics online or face-to-face.
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“When you’re sitting on the bus and people start pouring scorn on you it's even worse.”
"I tell everyone, 'She is my daughter and I am a proud teen mum.'"
When Izzy, who admitted she looks incredibly young for her 19-years age, posted a video online about ‘bus questions’’ more people piled on.
“I mean you look like you are 14,” typed one hater.
“You probably don't know who the dad is,” said another.
“You are ruining your life and your daughter’s… so irresponsible,” said a third. “You are a child with a child.”
What shocks Izzy’s critics even more is her openness on TikTok about how her much-loved daughter Matilda was conceived.
“My baby was an accident – but a happy one,” she openly admitted.
“We had been using condoms but one failed.
“Now I would always suggest people use two forms of contraception like the pill and a condom.”
Izzy racked up a staggering 6.1 million views on another video she posted last month doubling down on her ‘broken condom experience’ and detailing how her decision to become a teen mother is the best decision she ever made.
“I knew I couldn’t have an abortion, so I put my immediate plans to go to university to one side and decided to have a baby,” she explained.
Matilda is now a thriving toddler is, but Izzy has remained stunned by the remarks from people especially the elderly who jump to conclusions
“I was shocked by the number of views on the video,” she told Fabulous.
“But what really shocked me and made me realise I needed to educate people about teen mothers was the vicious trolling I received. The messages of hate really hurt me.
No woman should be made to feel guilty about her pregnancy no matter what age. It takes guts to have a baby."
“So many people asked if the child was planned, others said ‘RIP’ and one person said I was having my baby just to waste the taxpayers’ money.”
Izzy said she could have deleted the post or negative messages but vowed instead to take a stand.
“I pin my most viewed posts so people can debate the issue and teen mothers know they are supported.
“I also take the time to answer some of the attackers’ questions.
“It has worked and I had people supporting my post and thousands of private messages from teen mums like me saying I was so brave to stand up to the bullies.
“I refuse to be condemned for having a baby at 17. No woman should be made to feel guilty about her pregnancy no matter what age. It takes guts to have a baby.
“I laugh at the trolls now because they assume people care about what they say. They are uneducated and standing up to them has made me a better person.
“It’s 2023 and teen pregnancies should not be a taboo subject or looked down on. So, I decided to face my critics and keep posting and show my daughter and I living our best life.
“I know from my messages my posts help so many teen mums and I am breaking the normal so-called taboos people have about teen mums. People should be ashamed of themselves.
Izzy was studying A-Levels and working part-time with a charity for children with special education needs when she discovered she was pregnant in January 2021.
She said: “I’d was in a long-term relationship with my partner but it was a shock.
“We hadn't planned to have a baby so early but when I found out I knew our daughter was going to be the most amazing addition to our lives.”
Izzy found out she was pregnant after her period was extremely late and was stunned and then excited. “I told my parents and they reacted, who were shocked but incredibly supportive and loving,” she said.
“My pregnancy was relatively easy except for morning sickness which lasted the entire nine months but I got through it knowing my baby would be the reward.
“I had a few funny looks in shops but I ignored them.”
Matilda, weighing 7lb 2oz, arrived on September 8, 2021, at a local NHS Hospital following a vaginal delivery using a ventouse, a cup-shaped suction device to fast-track delivery after Matilda’s heart rate dropped.
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“I shared all about what it was like being pregnant – the good, the bad and the ugly,” she said. “I wanted people to know about morning sickness and stretch marks.
Izzy has amassed a global following among other teen mums eager for her tips and advice on parenting.
One thing which infuriates people is that she is breastfeeding post-one.
“Trolls can’t resist the chance to attack me for my boob-led feeding choices,” she said.
“I get labelled disgusting for breastfeeding my daughter because people don’t think I am actually old enough to do it.
“But I am and I am proud she is still feeding.
“Meanwhile I also batch cook and freeze my daughter’s meals.
“I refuse to pay £1.50 for a pouch of mashed carrot when I can make one myself for 7p and know exactly what's in it.
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“With grocery prices skyrocketing and every penny counting I want to show people you can be responsible and save money and be an amazing parent.
“And I am an amazing mum – whatever the trolls say.”
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